How to Deal with Manipulators
Posted date: Apr 11, 2018
Everyone in their lives has dealt with manipulative people as we meet different kinds of people in our lives. The negative people are inevitable for sure; they are around us and everywhere. We are unable to remove their presence in our lives but we do can protect ourselves from these toxic personalities. Read on and find out how to deal with a manipulator and limit the potential suck this person tends to bring.
Manipulative people are the ones who are experts in the art of draining self-confidence out of us, that's why we do have to know how to deal with them. All manipulative people tend to do their best to convince everyone about the objectiveness and rightness of their opinions and claims. Meanwhile, they are doing that foaming at the mouth, they are claiming you how deeply they are concerned about your troubles.
Mastering the art of limiting the share of manipulators in our lives, we do need to realize what these people are like. Number one rule, all manipulators aren't concerned about your well-being at all, everything they do care is their own interests, nothing else. You should protect yourself from these toxicities and cut them out of your life as much as possible. Our life is already full of drama and dark moments, why should we add some more?
What we can and should do is to get ready for possible attacks in order to not allow anyone to wear us down. How to deal with manipulative people effectively will you ask? There are some techniques that do work!
Master the Art of Total Ignorance; Remember No Reaction Is the Best Reaction
The first rule concerns your reaction towards the manipulator. In order not to become a victim, remember once and for all, you shoulddesperately ignore a manipulative person.Doesn't sound real? Why should you give the potential manipulator a pleasure of your reaction? Why should you spend your energy on such toxic meaningfulness things? Don't let the manipulator influence either your mood or the well-being at all. Manipulators are desperately trying to frustrate both: you and your mind. The biggest trap here is to have a reaction, really, don't even think about making an effort to fix them.
Once the manipulator figured out what might influence you, you are trapped. Then your actions and decision-making might be used the way the manipulators want to use them. You might say how I dare can do that if it is, for example, my boss or manager, or even a family member. It isn't as easy as you'd like it to be. But still, everything depends on you, you shouldn't forget about that. Listen to them, but mind not to act as they expect you will be. Disappoint these poor beings, you can do that, believe me! No reaction is the best reaction ever!
Their Center of Gravity Needs to Be Identified
Be ready, these cowardly people might attempt to influence your social circle, yes; they undoubtedly will try to become friends with your friends. Why will you ask? In order to convince your friends to go against you. No panic, please, here is your turn to make a change, turn their game against them.
You should identify how you can trap into manipulator's center of gravity. Discover their discomfort zone, their weak point. Once you've done that, you are able to strike them at the right time. This trick is of a great value especially for those people, who find it almost impossible to ignore them. If ignoring the manipulator seems like a curse for you, you are saved! Right after you've reinvestigated their center of gravity, one thing is left: attacking! It might be anything starting from their professional circle to family members or friends.
Let's not forget about our motives of attacking manipulators, as we don't want to become those "toxic negative beings," don't we? Keep in mind that's the way you are protecting yourself, mind not to become a bad sort.
Rely on Your Intuition
No matter how many close friends or family members surround you, you are the one that definitely knows what you want your life to look like. Keep in mind that fact and don't let anyone doubt it!
It's you, and no one else, who is in charge of your life path. That's what determines an ordinary person and a highly successful one on the street. Happy and successful people don't seek approval from others, they are self-contained people, they strongly believe in their dreams and abilities. You are defying your life, the earlier you get it, the better it will be! How dare you doubt your values and beliefs? You don't need to explain your decisions to anyone, relax, it's your life! When you are confident, no chances are left for manipulators, remember that! Trust your intuition; it is your best guide and friend ever!
There Is no Place for Compromise
How many times have you felt guilty? Have never counted? You don't need to as everyone feels it, but believe that guilt is a total mess, besides the most useless thing ever. By the way, guilt is the favorite and powerful weapon for manipulators. Still, want to feel that way? I doubt that! Never let anyone make you feel guilty for any disastrous consequences, misfortune, or failure. Never and No one! Remember each time you are cheerful and happy, you make so much pain for these negative toxic personalities. They are striving to make everyone unconfident and dissatisfied with themselves. Leave them no chances for triumph!
They will do everything possible to bring the element of "doubt" in you, but you can and should confront them! Your goals, preferences, interests, and values can't be compromised by anyone! Dealing with manipulators, you need to stop feeling guilty. Do your best to be proud of what you are, what you've already done, and what you will in the future. Feel confident no matter what, and remember you don't owe anything to anyone.